Why do they succeed? Psychology: Highly accomplished people always have deep inner thoughts 6 kinds of stressful thinking

If there is a word that is most suitable to describe high-achievers in society, it must be "the capable one has many strengths." The more outstanding people are, the more responsible they bear. Dr. Harriet Braiker, a psychologist in California, USA, believes that the higher they achieve in social conditions, because changes in identity will gradually change their thinking style. But there are some distorted ideas that can lead to unhealthy pressure hyperplasia. Here are 6 pressure thinking patterns that she believes are most common among high-achievers:

1. I must do it perfectly

One of the directions of high-achievers is to judge others and yourself with very strict standards. On the other hand, people like this usually hold the lead position. They are afraid of being negatively opposed or losing the trust of others, so they pursue perfectionism more, and such pressures may be transferred to their lower classes.

Replacement Thinking: "Perfection" is unrealistic. In fact, others' evaluations focus more on the overall contribution you bring, rather than doing the best every step.

2. I must prove to everyone that

High-achieving people, in addition to asking themselves to be as good as possible in one thing, will also ask themselves to play every role in life, and can't wait to prove their abilities to everyone. Work hard to be a leader at work, keep the house untainted at home; in close relationships, be the most favorable and most respectful companion for your partner.

Replacement thinking: "Everyone must be allowed to see his own value." This expectation is both weak and lacks meaning. If you always have to prove yourself every time a new demand or opportunity arises, then in fact, you still don’t understand what your real value lies.

3. I cannot relax before things are done

Many high-achievers believe that relaxation is a luxury. Before the tasks are clear, they cannot let themselves be separated from work and tasks and take a break without any thoughts.

Conversion thinking: Relaxation and appropriate rest are not only necessary to maintain health, but many scientific certificates also show that long-term burnout can consume brain nerves and reduce problem decisions and judgment.

4. I should have to complete more work

The higher the achievements, the new tasks will always be added to the list; in addition, they are often uneasy about other people's work abilities and cannot deliver tasks, so "written everything" has become a huge source of pressure.

Conversion thinking: Focus on the "quality" of work rather than "quantity". It is more meaningful to complete several larger and more valuable tasks instead of 10 or more small tasks; learning to allocate and putting aside some responsibilities, and taking everything in one go may have the opposite effect.

5. Everyone relies heavily on me. Every decision made by a high-powered person is of great importance. High-achieving people are often the subject of issuing orders and people seeking opinions. Therefore, they often believe that people around them respect their opinions and must be responsible for every cycle.

Conversion thinking: There is no need to bear the mistakes that are not your own. A true leader will let the followers know in which aspects they must work independently and assume all their responsibilities.

6. I can handle all this by myself. High achievers are often encouraged by high self-esteem and motivation, and refuse to ask for help when facing overloading their workload. Take the high-achieving women at the job field, they may have to hurry to pick up their children after get off work after the day's work, and then hurry home to do some food.

Conversion thinking: Accepting help does not mean lack of ability. Taking the initiative to ask others to help will not only reduce your burden, but also make people more aware of you.

Harriet Braiker Finally reminds us: the most important subject for high-achievers is to recognize what hypotheses in their hearts are not in line with reality. As you become more and more aware of what distorted thinking you have, you can break the pressure pattern of evil.

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